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The entrepreneurial thought process:
When people carry around with them an entrepreneurial thought process, they are in danger of this:
They want to do what they want to do, when they want to do it. There is no doubt about it. I want to do this!
I want this. And they can even brilliantly plan; here’s the numbers that are involved with my success, here is the number of calls I need to make, here is how many people in need to talk to.
They can create these plans like no other. But here’s what it boils down to.
They don’t want to be controlled by anybody or anything.
“I don’t want to be controlled”.
And every time they tell themselves to do something that control piece comes up.
They see control as stifling and then add into it the fact that every time you tell yourself to do something and you don’t follow through you beat yourself up.
While now you are upset and you throw in another feeling: You go to beat up mode:
“See I’m lazy”!
“I never follow through with what I tell myself to do.”
I beat myself up and I don’t like feeling like that, It feels awful, it feels horrible, so I won’t do that thing that makes me feel lousy.
So your brain is trying to figure out something else to do, something else to do so you do not have to feel the pain.
The bottom line is where it stems from.
It stems from the very beginning as saying “I don’t want to be controlled” “ I don’t want to feel committed to have to do this thing. Because it feels stifling”. It feels stifling to my creativity, it feels restrictive, I don’t like it. And then it is back into beat up mode because “I am not going to follow through with what I tell myself to do”.
So it is a really good entrepreneurial thought process that stirs this. Now an entrepreneurial thought process is really good because it gets you into a business and you’ve created a situation where you’re the boss.
The problem with that is you don’t want to be controlled by anybody in this adviser; this thought process says: “that includes you”. “I don’t want to be controlled by you”. Don’t create a schedule for me to follow through with and commit to for the next six months because I will not do it.
Maybe a week into the schedule I would be jazzed about it? That is really why people go to a big event or a seminar.
Or some kind of leadership activity or they do something where they get really excited and pumped up and say: “from now on I going to do it like this, here is how I am going to do things”. This many days, this many times, this is my new plan of action, I can’t wait to get home from the seminar and get going. I am going make this thing happen!
But lo and behold they show up and they won’t make it happen. Why? They don’t want to be controlled. They don’t want to be restricted held back from their freedom.
Now I don’t expect anybody to get this right off the bat and really understand this, obviously it goes very deep and carries on for a long time for a lot of people. The bottom line is to be able to create a new association with this, that says “obedience” and specifically that that word is difficult for some people.
Obedience; “I don’t even like that word”, but obedience to yourself is an invitation to freedom and that is the most important thing that you can start to associate. Obedience is an invitation to freedom.
What that means is that when you follow through with what you tell yourself to do you feel free. This is the opposite of felling guilt.
But here’s the thing it takes that awareness and then acting on that action to understand that. So it takes the feeling of having to do something like making phone calls and feeling that and then saying wait a second. I am feeling like I don’t want to due that; and then you think well maybe I am lazy? And all the thought process starts saying “I’ve done this before, I’ve been down this path where I told myself to do this and I don’t follow through and beat myself and I end up feeling really lousy and I don’t like it”.
Stop! Wait a second. If I follow through with this thing that I’m telling myself to do (it at first it’s almost like a forceful thing right I push myself) I will feel better.
That is the reward you get once you do it I feel good because I did what I told myself to do I don’t feel guilty and to have no reason to be up on myself because I just did what I told myself to do that alone is the process for you to start to turn this around so literally being held to follow through with what you tie yourself to do because the awareness is that this will breed freedom.
